Carlos usually spends a lot of time surfing. he values the time he has in the ocean alone with his thoughts and the waves. it's something he really feels like he needs. he recently met a very exciting woman named amy. he's been spending a lot of his time with amy. he enjoys the always-thrilling time they spend together, but he wishes he could surf more like he used to. he feels like surfing is a part of his identity that is now missing. what type of tension is he most likely feeling?