Friends of the heart relationship rules we expect to invest time, energy, thoughts, and feelings we expect friends to indicate their support for us by we need to engage in dual perspective so that friends of the road internal tensions external tensions guidelines for friendship communication types of relational dialectics that can create tension
a. we can see the friendship as our friend does as well as understand the thoughts and feelings this person expresses.
b. relationship stresses that grow out of people and their interactions.
c. into our friendships
d. friendships change as our lives change, due to education, career, family, caring for others
e. engage in dual perspective; communicate honestly; grow from differences; don’t sweat the small stuff, savor the whole person
f. temporary friends with whom intimacy is not sustained when one of the friends moves or other life changes occur.
g. friends who remain close regardless of distance and life changes
h. guidelines that friends or romantic partners have for their relationships. usually, these rules are implied and not spoken, not explicit, understandings.
i. autonomy vs. connection; openness vs. privacy; novelty vs. familiarity
j. showing, either verbally through dialogue or nonverbally through action, that they care.