Melina's father just died. she was very close to him, and simply cannot face the reality of his death. to those around her, it appears that melina is not grieving at all. melina is experiencing grief.

Absent grief

Explanation:

Missing grief is a form of grief in which the affected person blocks their feelings. It intends to act as if nothing has happened and becomes completely airtight to the subject. In fact, if you mention it, it doesn't give you a different weight than you would on any other subject. This is what is happening to Melina.

In this case what happens is a negation mechanism. The impact is so strong that one does not feel able to cope with it. So it focuses on other aspects of life. The problem is that hidden pain always returns, whether in the form of irritability, anxiety or physical illness, among other things.

nigger, that word was originated for white folks   to keep black people under

and when black people use it, they know that's just how they greet each other

and when white folks use it, they know there's a double meaning under