When examining the idea that women secretly want to be raped because they report fantasizing about it, it is important to remember that?

It is important to remember that in a fantasy, the fantasizer is in control, whereas in a real rap.e, all control is taken away by the rapis.t.
When it comes to women fantasizing about rap.e, they are not glorifying the actual act of rapin.g, but rather imagining what it would be like to have this paradoxical situation where they would be in charge, even though it is rap.e. In real life, if it came to this situation, this would be against their will and the rapis.t would be in control rather than the woman, which is a completely different scenario.