If you fear you have been abusive to a partner, what can you do? end all relationships for at least a year accept that people can't change be patient with yourself find out why others make you abusive

I'd have to say either be patient with yourself or find out why others make you abusive. However, I lean more towards the be patient with yourself.

It wouldn't be the first two as the first answer could lead to developing anxiety or higher temper while the second one is just necessarily false. People change constantly, and if you want an example of this, think back to how your friends or classmates acted back in middle school compared to high school and etc.

Being patient with yourself would be my answer as it would not only allow you to calm down and assess the situation as to why you may view yourself as being abusive, but help you have a clear mind to ask your partner if you have been or seem to be abusive and what the situations are to fix it. 

The last one, however, is more of a self-thing. Others may not make you abusive, it may just be your nature and maybe it's not that you're being abusive but rather that you're being playful yet very physical - similar to how guys are stereotyped to act around their friends.

Therefore, I believe the answer to be the third option.

Hope this helps!