4. one way to manage stress is to reframe the way you think about things. read the following statements and rewrite them so that they focus on the positive instead of the negative.
1. i spent so much time baking this cake for the party, but it collapsed and now it looks terrible. my guests will be here in an hour, so there’s nothing i can do.
2. i can’t believe i’m waiting in this long line just to buy movie tickets. by the time i get to the front, i’m sure the movie will be sold out; i should have just rented a movie at home.
3. i can’t stand exercising at the gym. everybody is lifting these heavy weights and running for an hour, and i can barely walk a mile.
4. of course i have a cold again. every time i have a big event coming up i get a cold, and it doesn’t go away for a month.
5. my friends got together on the weekend, and they didn’t even ask me to go. that’s the third time they’ve done that. it’s like they’re embarrassed about me or something.
6. i’m a terrible painter; my painting looks nothing like the vase of flowers i was trying to paint. it looks like a big blob of different colors.
7. i always get lost when i’m driving. i’m already late, i know i’m going to get lost, and then i’ll be even later.
8. i lost my keys again. it figures. now i’m going to have to pay to get another set, and i’ll probably lose those a week from now.
9. my mom gave my sister all these clothes for her birthday. on my birthday, she gave me a card with $10—that’s it. she’s always favoring my sister, and she basically gives me nothing.
10. i’m not even sure why i’m organizing this closet. it’s just going to become disorganized again.
11. i just took the dog out for a walk, and now he needs to go out again. i’m never going to get anything done today. all i do is take care of this dog.
12. i was just going to go for a run, and now it’s raining so i’m stuck inside.
13. i haven’t gone to the dentist in so long i’m terrified to go. i’m sure all my teeth have cavities, and he’s going to have to fill them, and it’s going to hurt.

1) Oh well! Nobody is perfect and nobody is expecting me to be perfect, so I will just make something new with the cake i have left! :)

2) I have been waiting for a long time and the movie might be sold out, but if i rent the movie instead then i can staying in my pajamas and lay in bed while watching the movie!! that sounds way better than having to be in dress up clothes and having to be surrounded by strangers! :)

3) All these people are doing more than what i can do but they didn't just come into the gym one day and start lifting these heavy weights or just got on a treadmill and started to run for an hour. They all started off small like me and if i keep working hard enough then i will be just like them! 

4) Alright i have a cold again but I will not let that effect me from having an amazing time at my big event! Just take some medicine and i will get through it quickly!

5) My friends got together without me again...They might be planning something for me or they might of have had these plans for a while and i wasn't there so it would be kind of hard for me to go anyways. Oh well, that gives me time read my favorite book or watch this movie! :)

6) I may not have artistic skills but that is 100% alright! Not everyone the artistic gift, but who knows.. maybe with enough practice, i can get better and people will start noticing my drawings.

7) Getting lost isn't always a bad thing. When i get lost it means that i don't know that area so that is a chance for me to explore the new area! Nobody is perfect and I am sure they would understand that I got lost and that is the reason for me being late.

8) A new set of keys! Maybe this time i can get this design and then i can get this lanyard to go with it so that 1) they are matching and 2) it will help me not lose my keys! 

9) My mom is giving me my own money to spend on anything i want! woohoo!! My mom trusts me to pick out good clothes and I know she wants me to spend it on something that i really want. Money is the best gift you could give/get!

10) Its always fun to go through and see what i find in my closet! sometimes i find clothes that i got a long time ago but forgot about so now i can start wearing it! Maybe i could clear up some space by donating the clothes that i don't need anymore.

11) Oh, the dog needs to go out again... Oh well, i could use a break and go outside for another walk! the weather feels nice today.

12) Its raining and now i can't go for that run outside. well maybe there are some exercises that i could do around the house. Or I could always use a day of rest and relaxation.

13) It would be best for me to go to the dentist asap because i have not been in a while. I am hoping that everything is okay but if not then it is better to find out now then wait till I am in absolute pain and i can't stand it!

Positive roles models does great things and novitiate people bad role models does bad things