If an individual orders an alcoholic beverages in a private club, what is the first question the server should ask?

The server must ask:
If he/she is a guest of a member of the club
If he/she is a member of the club or a family member of a member of the club

In a private club, servers usually ask this because it is usually club policy that their services and goods are only provided to those who are part of the club. Club members pay for these services and usually, only guests and family members can use their perks. 

I’m not sure what your question is but this man is clearly choking. you would need to preform the heimlich maneuver to clear the mans airway. if all fails, call medical right away. i hope this ! : -)