She fears him, and will always askwhat fated her to choose him; she meets in his engaging maskall reasons to refuse him; but what she meets and what she fears 5are less than are the downward years, drawn slowly to the foamless weirsof age, were she to lose him.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .meanwhile we do no harm; for theythat with a god have striven, not hearing much of what we say, take what the god has given; though like waves breaking it may be, 45or like a changed familiar tree, or like a stairway to the seawhere down the blind are driven. to which word in the first stanza does line 44 of the poem refer? a) engaging b) fated c) fears d) mask