1. asking questions to clarify initial perceptions initiating
2. people do not want to spend time together
bonding
3. first stage of relationship development
terminating
4. involves an increase in personal involvement
integrating
5. end of the relationship
differentiating
6. relationship becomes more formal, publicly recognized
avoiding
7. talk is reduced to everyday matters
circumscribing
8. stage in which "in-language" usually emerges
intensifying
9. people begin to pursue outside interests
experimenting
10. people go through the motions of being committed
stagnating