What is a paradox in figurative language​

A paradox is a figure of speech in which a statement appears to contradict itself.  A compressed paradox comprised of just a few words is called an oxymoron

Explanation:

for example, a character who is both charming and rude might be referred to as a “paradox” even though in the strict logical sense, there's nothing self-contradictory about a single person combining disparate personality traits.

in at least 150 words, discuss the tone of the narrator in "i stand here ironing," and explain how it impacts the telling of the story