Does tone have an effect on how we speak to each other everyday?

yes

Explanation:

cause it might show you are sad,or mad,tone shows emotions.

in my opinion i think it was not excessive at all. the maids turned against the queen in his absence, how could he ever trust them again? if he let them go they would surely spread the news of the suitor's deaths, which is much too risky. as for the suitors, they were selfish, rude, and greedy. the god's had apparently marked them for death, meaning odysseus made their death come faster.